Which question fits this video?
For a story, ask which moment stayed with them. For a tutorial, ask what they would need to try the first step. For a claim about the world, ask where they might check it. Choose the question after seeing the actual video rather than using the same script every time. If the child wants to tell you about a detail you missed, let that lead. An adult does not have to provide the most important interpretation of every shared activity.
What if the answer is “I don’t know”?
Offer an observation instead of repeating the question more forcefully. “I noticed the host changed their mind halfway through” gives the conversation somewhere to go. It is also fine to stop talking. Watching together can be valuable as shared time without producing a polished discussion. Avoid using casual questions to disguise a decision you have already made about access; if you need to set a limit, explain that limit directly.
When should we check something outside the video?
If the episode makes a factual claim that affects a real decision, identify the claim precisely and look for an appropriate source. A demonstration, personal story, and expert explanation provide different kinds of evidence. Say when you are unsure. You can model checking a source without making the child responsible for fact-checking the whole internet. Keep the next action proportionate: one unanswered question may call for another source, not a new household rule about every video.